We use a model (pictured below). It has five pillars; foundational assertions which hold it up. These are perspectives we hold as true to stand within the context of Soul-Partnership.
It is easy to see how we would like our partner to change. The Soul-Partnership model asks us to use our partners as mirrors and to take responsibility for the change we want to see in the relationship. If you want more honesty, be more honest. If you want more romance, take responsibility for generating it.
Truth Is Co-Created
We live in a consensus reality. Yet in a couple, there are usually only two views that matter. When King and Queen agree, it is so. We create the reality of our relationship together. We co-create the truth of our relationship, and our experience of it.
Stories Hold Meaning
The stories we tell about ourselves and about our relationship carry meaning. To have a fulfilling relationship, we need stories that inspire and uplift us. Engaging stories of how we came together and where we are going together are vital for our relationship’s health.
The purpose of a soul partnership is the evolution of the partners’ souls. As the partners evolve, the relationship and it’s purpose evolve too.
Everything Happens For The Best
This pillar connects us with the sense of appreciation and gratitude needed to accept the gifts of life in whatever form they arrive. The belief that everything happens for the best challenges us to accept and be grateful for whatever gifts our partner (and the rest of life) bring to us.
We hold these pillars as places to return to (instead of beating ourselves up when we let one go). Returning to the truth of these pillars is one of the main practices we do for the health of our relationship. It is by returning to them that we strengthen our commitment to Soul-Partnership and to one another.
In addition to our model, we use the metaphor of a Kingdom for our relationship, and the archetypes of King and Queen for our roles in it. We do this partly because it is fun, it taps into a timeless romantic ideal - the stuff of fairy stories and legend. But the Kingdom metaphor has a deeper purpose too. It draws attention to our power, our leadership capacity. It puts the responsibility for the health of our Kingdom squarely in our hands. There are no outside forces dictating the laws of our Kingdom. It is our prerogative as King and Queen to create the culture and norms that will benefit all the inhabitants of our Kingdom - to create a relationship that nurtures us both (and all others who live within its influence).